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F#CK YOU: Cursing Therapy for The Not-So-Refined Lady


On occasion, I like to look back on some old blog posts, the ones before I threw myself solidly into the world of personal finance blogging. It’s a little glimpse into who this Lady is as a person, without her finance hat on. And this blog was a crowd favorite and, yes, I’ll admit nothing brings out my need for cursing therapy more than stupid men and even stupider taxes.

The Demeanor

I am a very chill person, usually. I dislike confrontation, arguments, or debates. I communicate on an even-keel. I am compassionate to other’s situations and try to be forgiving. For the most part, my self-esteem brushes off any slights by others.

The Provocation

However, someone insulted me so deeply yesterday, insulted to the point that I was forced to verbally defend myself. He was harassing, belittling, and emotional abusive. My response was civil but made it clear that the bullying was neither welcome nor acceptable. I was proud to express myself in a fair, logical, but no-nonsense manner. Yay me.

Cursing Therapy

With the return messages sent and phone put down, the fun started. The fury I felt bubbled up as a near continuous stream of swear words. Now none of them were expressed out loud but COME ON! Cursing can fun and cathartic. (Even PsychologyToday agrees!)

Here are a few of my favorites. When strung end-on-end, it’s like a virtual punch in the throat.

Douche-tard, such-a-dick, twat, mother-fucking asshole, bootlicker, suckwad, narcissist, bitch, stupid fucker, slime, snake, loser, self-absorbed cock. [Sigh] I feel better.

Of course, these are only a small sampling. Buzzfeed does a decent job of compiling the 100 Best Swear Words in the English language. (I’m a fan of 5, 28, and 44.)

For those of you interested in cursing therapy from a more intellectual perspective, can I recommend a very insightful podcast about the difference between swearing and cursing? Oh, and for the record, I LOVE the SYSK guys so f#cking much!

The Summary

Some people need to reel in their anger responses. Some people, like myself, need to work on embracing the anger. Those people need to hug it close and accept that anger is a natural emotion, an emotion that is purposeful and completely acceptable. Everyone experiences anger differently, but any counselor worth their salt would tell you that it’s important to process and release. This article about accepting anger is pretty spot on, in my opinion.

The Feedback

1) Who else takes the high road in public and then curses up a storm inside their own head? 2) Any imaginative curses to add to my list? 3) Does your bank account blush at your verbal insults when you check your balance? (Mine does. F#cking Greedy Tw#t that she is.)


Note: This blog was originally published on a previous blog site on June 17, 2015 and edited slightly. 


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